7 principles to develop toughness and build the life you want

7 principles to develop toughness and build the life you want7 principles to develop toughness and build the life you wantDont wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.? - Mark Victor HansenAt our core, all of us are looking to develop and grow in the four components of wellness mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Each component impacts the other, which means they have an voneinander abhngig relationship. Each day, as we make strides and build upon our core, we get stronger, more confident and smarter. We get TOUGHER.There are a lot of different definitions out there about what tough means. Far too often, it is given a negative conelendation. Toughness is defined as, strong and durable not easily broken or cut c apable of great endurance sturdy. Think about that - capable of great endurance. Strong and durable. Arent those qualities youre looking for as you develop into the woman or man you desire to be?Mentally, we hope to become resolute, committed and confident in our approach to everyday living. Emotionally, while its always good to be vulnerable and kind, its equally as important to be courageous, faithful and hopeful in the face of fear. Spiritually, getting in touch with what makes us who we are isnt easy. It takes time. It takes perseverance and endurance through challenging personal battles.And physically, its important to develop our muscles and take good care of the vessel that enables us to navigate this journey called life. People who take excellent care of themselves are tough - theyre able to withstand lifes nicks, scrapes, bumps and bruises. They power through adversity and failures and on to victories.Ive spent a lot of time coaching and working with high-achievers and to p-performing teams. Ive led them in an effort to help develop the soft skills, emotional intelligence, identify strengths and weaknesses and enable them to breakthrough and build upon both successes and failures. Ive found that tough people arent born that way - they start out as a proverbial slab of marble and are sculpted into a refined, powerful work of art.Life isnt easy, but you never quit. Never. I may not have been the best, but I can always give my best. Thats how you demonstrate toughness. - Jay BilasA fantastic book was written on the topic by Jay Bilas, a former college and pro basketball player and current analyst. The eponymous title, Toughness, explores the ways in which we can all grow, develop and become tougher to succeed. I decided to extract the most value I could from his book and my experience in coaching high-performers, and synthesized it here for you to understand.I think youll find behauptung 7 principles will change your life and are applicable to every o ne of us. I paraphrased some of Bilas points and illustrate how we can develop toughness and live life on our terms.1. Work so hard that you have to restThe worlds most successful people preach about the value of meditation and getting a proper nights sleep. We all have to rest. ur rest and daily reset should come after weve challenged ourselves and given every ounce of ourselves to working for our daily goals. Give your absolute best to every task in front of you. And give your best to your parents, husbands, wives and children, too.Maximize your output in all of your opportunities and relationships.2. Finish what youve startedOne of the most common threads in why some people dont feel fulfilled in their personal and professional lives is very simple they get started on something and fail to finish. Think about it - whats the point in that? The defining characteristic of every high achiever is that they finish what theyve started. They either accomplish a task, reach a goal, or ab andon course for a wiser, better alternative.3. Focus with determination on the task at handMulti-tasking, while very appealing, DOESNT WORK. Dont believe me? Take this from the Cleveland ClinicThe neuroscience is clear We are wired to be mono-taskers. One study found that just 2.5 percent of people are able to multitask effectively. And when the rest of us attempt to do two complex activities simultaneously, it is simply an illusion.Youre growing and getting tougher when you focus with every ounce of concentration on what youre doing in that moment.4. Encourage yourself and encourage others who work with youThis is straight out of the Dale Carnegie (of How to Win Friends and Influence People fame) playbook Encourage the people around you, celebrate their wins and congratulate them on their success. But guess what? Do the same thing for yourself Positive thought encouragement enables us to power through adversity and challenging tasks, leading us to triumph and victory. When you are genuinely self-motivated and encouraging to others, you are a person that will keep moving forward. And everyone wants to be around that person.Failing doesnt make you a failure. Failing makes you a competitor. Every competitor fails. If you lay it on the line, you will come up short at times. Failure is a part of competing, and embracing that fact is an important component of toughness. Tough people fail, but tough people are not failures. The only failures are those who give up, or give in. - Jay Bilas5. Be alert to change in your life - and change all around youAs John F. Kennedy once said, Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. Change is unavoidable. Its always coming for us, seeking us out whether we run, hide or embrace it. So be alert. Be alert to new opportunities. Be alert to ways you can build upon your successes, and likewise how to learn from your defeats.6. Take responsibility - own your words and ac tionsYou want a surefire way to fail? Blame other people for your words and actions. Make excuses and refuse to take ownership. Deny responsibility and pass the buck to someone else. Those are the marks of a person that no one wants to work with. And if youre seeking self-employment or entrepreneurship, you would be wise to correct this before you begin any prospective venture.It starts with you. You will make tremendous strides in life, endure when others falter and continue growing when you accept responsibility in good times and bad. Forge ahead with a winners mindset. Winners are tough and always accountable for what they say and do.7. Have one fixed objective - get better every dayIf youre struggling to determine what your passion, purpose, mission, definition of success or goals are, please let me remind you to start with this very simple objective Get better every day. You have the time. Read one chapter in a book to learn a new skill. Jump rope for 10 minutes to increase yo ur cardiovascular fitness. Spend 10 minutes in mindfulness meditation that allows you to think clearly about whats most important in your life.Write a small journal entry about your feelings, what moves you and what inspires you. All of these things take a little amount of time. All of them can be accomplished with minimal investment. And all of them will begin forming the compounding effect of helping you to improve and get better each day. Toughness is a prized quality among the most happy and successful people. Go on, youre a lot tougher than you think.You Can Do ThisJoin my newsletterandcheck out my book,The Value of You. This will give youinspirationto start planning for success on your journey.Thisarticlefirst appeared on Medium.